This message may be offensive to some, but you’ve got to understand that I write it because I want to see you succeed.

Those who have suffered for years from food addiction and overeating are special to me, because I suffered right along with you. I know your pain. I’ve been there.

So if it means a bit of tough love, I’m gonna do it. Because although I don’t personally know you, I love you. Because you are me, and I am you.

Ok, let’s get to it.

The chances of you succeeding with overcoming food addiction and overeating are slim.


First up, research shows that only 92% of people actually achieve their goals. So, a mere 8% of people will succeed and get to where they want to go. Dismal thought, right?

Stacked further against us food addicts and overeaters, is that our habits are powerful and we are up against a serious force.

Added to that, food addicts and overeaters tend to be people who are sensitive, feeling so much more than others, and to numb our feelings, we push them down by eating.

Drug addicts can go to rehab. Same for the alcoholic. The gambler who keeps spending money can keep away from the casino.

But a food addict can’t get away from food. Firstly, because we need to eat to survive, and secondly, because we are inundated with messages about food and eating and taste.

Food is advertised tantalizingly on TV, on the billboard as we drive home, in the magazines we read, in the smell of fresh scones from the bakery in the mall. Food is too available, and this makes it dangerous to us who are addicted to it.

Now I’m doing an about turn and changing the subject slightly: you can’t find many success stories about food addicts and overeaters who have conquered the habit, because most of them don’t stick to the program. [Source] As a result, it is hard to conduct research around it. Now understand, that when I say “program”, I am not referring to a diet. It may involve cognitive therapy or implementing new habits; either way, it does involve a certain level of commitment from the food addict.

So the first mountain you’re going to need to climb when attempting to stop food addiction and overeating, is being serious about what you want to achieve. I know that’s hard, because to get to this point, you’ve tried every diet under the sun. You’ve taken every pill you can. You’ve tried exercising and failed. It is hard to commit to something just one more time.

I get it.

But…if you want to see change, you have to be serious. It has to be a priority. Otherwise, you are doomed to fail.

Change takes serious commitment, and even more so from a food addict and overeater.

If you’re still reading…thank you and well done.

You’ve improved your chances of success!

And although it may sound stupid, reading to this point is an achievement, because it shows you’re serious about learning how to kick food addiction.

Ok, so what can you do about it? How can you make sure you don’t self-sabotage?

James Clear gives an exceptional, simple tip that involves two parts:

  1. Decide the type of person you want to be.
  2. Prove it to yourself with small wins.

Now, assuming you’ve just completed the 3 free Phat Madame NO MORE! lessons, the goal is to get you to subscribe to the complete Phat Madame NO MORE! Program, so that you can in time, stop overeating, being addicted to food and lose weight permanently.

So what does James’ advice look like in real life, and relating specifically to our goal?

First take a moment, right now, to see yourself as you want to be. But don’t just see yourself slim. Use your senses to explore what it really feels like to be free from the eating habits that enslave you.

For me, it was to see myself slim and joyful, dancing with thanksgiving as I twirled around in a pretty dress, my eyes uplifted to God in thanks. I could see myself surfing in a swimming costume, being able to get myself onto the surf board without huffing and puffing, riding the waves, joyful, and at peace, my legs strong, my skin tanned. I could smell the waves, feel the water, my hair wet against my face.

As you do this exercise for yourself, use all your senses to really live your dream:

  1. Smell
  2. Touch
  3. Taste
  4. Sound
  5. Sight

For the second part of the exercise, map out what small wins would look like. Here’s an example:

  1. I am going to sign up for the Phat Madame NO MORE! program
  2. I am going to read and participate in every single lesson
  3. I am going to make the Phat Madame NO MORE! program a priority in my life
  4. I am going to tell my family that I have signed up for the program and ask that they support me in my efforts

When you start the program, you will be able to jot down more small wins as you work your way through it, but for now, that is really all you need to do.



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Do not put it on hold, because then you are bound to fail. If you’re serious, click here to sign up for the full Phat Madame NO MORE! program, or to find out more about it.

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